Most of us learned early in life to avoid confusion, or at least not to admit to it, even when it was painfully obvious we didn't have a clue. On those rare occasions when we sought clarity we were either accused of not paying attention or ridiculed for asking dumb questions. It's no wonder, then, that we don't let on when we're confused.
Facing up to confusion is critical to your health and well being. Your personal growth and professional development will depend upon it. While in a state of confusion, you are susceptible to redirection and open to new information. If you can do this in a constructive manner, think of the possible benefits.
Start by viewing confusion in a more positive light: con means "to study carefully" and fusion means, "blending together." Thus, con-fusion means to study or learn together.
Once you've been enlightened by your exposure to the views of another you are less likely to be confused. Enthused by the results, you're now ready to replicate the process within your own sphere of influence.
Establish a regular time and a comfortable place where those you invite can freely admit to being confused. You may have to set the tone by saying something like, "Is anyone else confused or is it just me?" Recognizing that there's a legitimate reason for the confusion sets the stage for honest dialogue and constructive feedback. It invites even the most timid to participate without fear of being wrong.
Although some folks may still get confused from time to time, thanks to your efforts they'll know what to do about it.
Note: Working through a state of confusion builds self-confidence.
V.O.R.
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